Parenting as a Portal
Parenting as a Portal
There’s a sacred invitation that comes when we become parents.
An opportunity that isn’t always loud or obvious — but quietly transformative.
It’s the chance to reframe your story.
So many of us enter parenthood carrying the proverbial bags from our past.
Stories from our childhood that shaped us: some beautiful, some painful, some that left cracks we’ve spent years trying to fill or forget about entirely.
And then one day, we look into the eyes of our own child…
And suddenly, those old stories rise to the surface, and it all comes flashing back, right into the here and now of the moment.
But here’s the truth: parenting is not just about raising children.
It can also be about re-parenting yourself.
It’s about noticing the old patterns that originate from the stories we were told to believe, pausing, and choosing a new path, foraging a new way forward for our children.
It’s about becoming more whole — not by pretending the pain didn’t happen, but by integrating it with love and grace.
When you reframe your childhood story through the way you parent today, you do something profound:
You begin to rewire your nervous system, to soften the places that hardened for survival.
You create new neural pathways — not just in your own mind, but in the dynamic between you and your child. You heal what you have held onto and in doing so, you stop the cycle in its tracks.
You shift from fragmentation to wholeness, from reactive parenting to conscious connection.
Maybe you grew up feeling unseen — and now, you slow down to truly see your child, and in doing so, you finally feel seen too.
Maybe you were taught to suppress emotions — and now, you welcome your child’s feelings with curiosity, which helps your own inner child feel safe to feel again.
Maybe you were made to believe love was conditional — and now, you practice unconditional presence, which gradually rewrites that old script.
This is not about perfect parenting (which doesn’t exist). This about conscious parenting.
It’s about showing up, again and again, with awareness and intention.
It’s about recognizing that every challenge with your child can also be a portal —
A chance to meet an old wound with new compassion and understanding.
And as you do this, layer by layer, you reclaim more of yourself.
You become less fragmented.
You become more whole.
You don’t erase the past — but you rewrite your relationship to it and gain more grace for your own parents or the people who raised you.
So if you’ve ever felt triggered by your child and wondered, Why is this so hard for me? —
Know that this is the work.
This is the healing.
This is you reframing your story — not just for your child, but for the little one you once were.
And every time you choose presence over pattern,
Compassion over control,
Connection over correction —
You’re not just parenting your child.
You’re re-parenting yourself back to wholeness.